Today is great because…

Adults are bad at adulthood

Posted: December 4th, 2012 | Author: | Filed under: Personal | Comments Off

20121204-125125.jpgI used to be a good blogger. I used to be a good writer. I used to love to read books. I used to love to create things–sew, draw, take photos. I used to love to love things.

But now I’m an adult.

Being an adult doesn’t mean giving up on the things I love. It means letting into my life many things that I don’t love. And then not having very much time or energy left for all the good stuff. That’s what I’ve been feeling for a long time and it’s only been getting worse. The longer it goes on, the more comfortable I become with it. I wonder how I used to be who I used to be. I wonder how I became who I am now, a person comfortable without joyful ambitions. I go to work in the morning and think I’ll have time for something wholesome and good, but I never end up having the energy. I sit on the couch and wonder what’s happening on twitter because I once thought I needed to pretend to care and then became addicted to following the mundanities of strangers.

As an adult, I feel like I’m in total control of every aspect of my life.

I’m not.

And I’m slowly, slowly, slooooowly learning how to reverse all this incorrect adulthood I’ve been collecting. I’ve been doing adulthood all wrong because I didn’t really know that I had another option.


Find your focus, then refocus

Posted: August 22nd, 2012 | Author: | Filed under: Nothingness, Personal, Uncategorized | Comments Off

out-of-focusNow’s probably not the best time to fire up the ol’ happiness blog. The tag line of the blog is “Today is great because…” Well, today wasn’t great at all. The last two weeks have not been great. In fact, I’ve been on something of a lower plane of mental stability for a while now. Happiness comes in waves; without lows there are no highs. (And the weeks after your gf moves out, the lows go a bit lower.)

We all go through these transition periods in our lives. As long as my highs aren’t lower than the lows that most people experience, I feel like I’m doing ok.

Thinking back, I had a different idea in mind when starting this stupid website a couple years ago–before I left it for dead and gave thought to it even less than the zero people who have ever visited it. My intention then was to focus on the positive, good (maybe great) little things in my day, or even in the days of the people around me. There’s a lot of good stuff happening all the time. SO MUCH! But it’s so easy to get bogged down into the garbage.

Recent good things/bad things/failed ideas

(not for sure which category these should fall in)
I started the initial plans/layout and marketing for a web development website that would follow my progress as I learned to code websites. I’ve had these two seemingly conflicting urges for a lot of the last few years: write things and learn to code websites. A few months ago I put together a timeline to improve my development skills. So why not start a website and share that and also keep my writing muscles in shape? That was the idea, anyway.

But I got lazy. Never completed my learning plan. Never even published the website.

Why I failed

  • I questioned myself. I thought the idea had already been done a thousand times. There are so many websites already dedicated to web development and learning it and teaching it and serving ads to people googling it. I got discouraged then started to think my idea was stupid. Then I stopped working on it.
  • I quite my learning plan. I just stopped studying and instead spent time on the couch watching movies with my girlfriend. And it was beautiful. It also turned to summer, so we went camping together and to friends’ weddings and other fun stuff.

Why I succeeded

  • I started the project. I started learning. I’m smarter and more experienced for having done the work that I did finish.
  • I didn’t let a plan or list of to-dos stop me from enjoying quality time with loved ones. It’s so easy to think that success is the divine goal–our lives turn into a series of goals and the to-dos to get there. We work hard all the time to earn our sense of accomplishment. It’s often worth the effort and conviction. Some times we also need to take advantage of the love we can share with our family members while we can get it. I don’t regret that and I will always consider it a success.

The Sweets Mission

Posted: October 9th, 2011 | Author: | Filed under: Personal, Today | Comments Off
Rock Candy Chadelier at Sugar Sugar Candy in Minneapolis

Rock Candy Chadelier at Sugar Sugar Candy in Minneapolis

Often, it takes having out-of-town company to enjoy things in the city that I take for granted.  Mom, Dad, sister, brother-in-law and nephew came to town this weekend. They had a wedding to attend. But in the extra time we had, we explored a few of my favorite sweets emporiums. My sister is a baker and candy maker. This is a new business she’s starting so, for now, it’s still just a side gig of hers. She’s always doing research. There are so many wonderful places in Minneapolis to find sweet inspiration–we’ve got a longer tour planned for the future of all the new local Minneapolis & St. Paul bakeries popping up–so in the limited time we had I took her to the best candy store in Minneapolis and to try the best chocolate chip cookies.

Sugar Sugar Candy is a cute and unique candy shop. It reminds me of an old-fashioned drug store. But clean and stocked instead with the delicious elixir of hard to find old school candies (think Oh Henry! candy bar), top-shelf chocolate bars (think Rogue Chocolatier) and bulk candies (gummy worms, the best ultimate malted milk balls you’ll ever taste). The selection is broad and often kitchy, but Sugar Sugar really shines in the design of the space and the antique merchandising racks. It’s a destination and an experience. You’ll leave having spent at least $10 on candy. And you’ll be perfectly happy that you did.

For my money, the best chocolate chip cookie in Minneapolis is found at Lucia’s bakery. It’s the perfect amount of crisp outside to soft, chewy middle and packed with as much dark chocolate as any one could ever need. Despite the deliciousness of my sister’s chocolate chip cookies, I want her to try to replicate the Lucia’s recipe so I can bake them at home.