Today is great because…

2013 is going to be great

Posted: December 10th, 2012 | Author: | Filed under: Inspiration | Comments Off

It’s that time of year again. Not the holidays, because, who cares anymore about the holidays?! No, it’s the end of the year. Time to reminisce on the past year and start planning for next year.

A couple years ago I found a really great series of posts about how to form a vision for the coming year and how to create a life plan to help take control of your future. It’s written by Chris Guillbeau, a blogger who’s initial focus was on what he calls “unconventional living.” Basically, advice on learning to live the way you want to instead of the way you think you should (or worse, the way you think others think you should live).

Creating that plan for the first time was a revelation for multiple reasons, which I’ll sum up with a quote:

“If you don’t know where you’re going, you’ll end up someplace else.” – Yogi Berra

Easy, right? And that’s the point. I wrote a few intentional goals that I wanted to accomplish by the end of the year.  Some small, like go for a hike along a Great Lakes trail that I’d always wanted to do. Some were larger, like paying off my student loan. It gave me something to work toward and something to measure against. It put all in one place (a spreadsheet) things I knew I wanted to do, things that were important to me in a way that wouldn’t let me forget about them.

At the end of the year, I had completed some of the goals. Some I had not. And that’s ok. The idea is to help direct your trajectory, to make sure you’re at least heading in the right direction.

We often get too busy to think intentionally about where we’re going and what we want.  All it takes is to take some time and think about what you’ve done and what you want to accomplish.

I’m excited to take some time to review 2012 and to look ahead and plan for 2013. There’s some good stuff coming up.

A new idea

Posted: December 4th, 2012 | Author: | Filed under: Uncategorized | Comments Off


Something new I’m working on that I started 13 seconds ago.

Adults are bad at adulthood

Posted: December 4th, 2012 | Author: | Filed under: Personal | Comments Off

20121204-125125.jpgI used to be a good blogger. I used to be a good writer. I used to love to read books. I used to love to create things–sew, draw, take photos. I used to love to love things.

But now I’m an adult.

Being an adult doesn’t mean giving up on the things I love. It means letting into my life many things that I don’t love. And then not having very much time or energy left for all the good stuff. That’s what I’ve been feeling for a long time and it’s only been getting worse. The longer it goes on, the more comfortable I become with it. I wonder how I used to be who I used to be. I wonder how I became who I am now, a person comfortable without joyful ambitions. I go to work in the morning and think I’ll have time for something wholesome and good, but I never end up having the energy. I sit on the couch and wonder what’s happening on twitter because I once thought I needed to pretend to care and then became addicted to following the mundanities of strangers.

As an adult, I feel like I’m in total control of every aspect of my life.

I’m not.

And I’m slowly, slowly, slooooowly learning how to reverse all this incorrect adulthood I’ve been collecting. I’ve been doing adulthood all wrong because I didn’t really know that I had another option.

Find your focus, then refocus

Posted: August 22nd, 2012 | Author: | Filed under: Nothingness, Personal, Uncategorized | Comments Off

out-of-focusNow’s probably not the best time to fire up the ol’ happiness blog. The tag line of the blog is “Today is great because…” Well, today wasn’t great at all. The last two weeks have not been great. In fact, I’ve been on something of a lower plane of mental stability for a while now. Happiness comes in waves; without lows there are no highs. (And the weeks after your gf moves out, the lows go a bit lower.)

We all go through these transition periods in our lives. As long as my highs aren’t lower than the lows that most people experience, I feel like I’m doing ok.

Thinking back, I had a different idea in mind when starting this stupid website a couple years ago–before I left it for dead and gave thought to it even less than the zero people who have ever visited it. My intention then was to focus on the positive, good (maybe great) little things in my day, or even in the days of the people around me. There’s a lot of good stuff happening all the time. SO MUCH! But it’s so easy to get bogged down into the garbage.

Recent good things/bad things/failed ideas

(not for sure which category these should fall in)
I started the initial plans/layout and marketing for a web development website that would follow my progress as I learned to code websites. I’ve had these two seemingly conflicting urges for a lot of the last few years: write things and learn to code websites. A few months ago I put together a timeline to improve my development skills. So why not start a website and share that and also keep my writing muscles in shape? That was the idea, anyway.

But I got lazy. Never completed my learning plan. Never even published the website.

Why I failed

  • I questioned myself. I thought the idea had already been done a thousand times. There are so many websites already dedicated to web development and learning it and teaching it and serving ads to people googling it. I got discouraged then started to think my idea was stupid. Then I stopped working on it.
  • I quite my learning plan. I just stopped studying and instead spent time on the couch watching movies with my girlfriend. And it was beautiful. It also turned to summer, so we went camping together and to friends’ weddings and other fun stuff.

Why I succeeded

  • I started the project. I started learning. I’m smarter and more experienced for having done the work that I did finish.
  • I didn’t let a plan or list of to-dos stop me from enjoying quality time with loved ones. It’s so easy to think that success is the divine goal–our lives turn into a series of goals and the to-dos to get there. We work hard all the time to earn our sense of accomplishment. It’s often worth the effort and conviction. Some times we also need to take advantage of the love we can share with our family members while we can get it. I don’t regret that and I will always consider it a success.